Celebs Who Got Real About The Spectrum Of Sexual Orientation And Gender Identity
“I don’t belong to anyone else but myself."
One of the most awesome things about the spectrums of sexuality and gender identity (which are two separate things, to be clear) is that no matter how you choose to identify - if you even choose to identify as anything at all – is that it’s ultimately up to you and nobody but you to decide exactly what that means.
And while we’ve still got a way to go in educating each other in tolerance and understanding, more and more celebs are speaking out about their sexuality and gender, and how that fits into the huge spectrum of both.
Keke Palmer on realising she doesn’t have to identify as anything if she doesn’t want to.
“I don’t belong to anyone else but myself,” she told xoNecole.
“I have to make my own decisions. Happiness is defined by me. My sexuality is defined by me. And that can change and this can change and I can make it what I want to make it because I’m the one who makes that choice.”
Miley Cyrus on gender non-conformity and being pansexual.
"My whole life, I didn't understand my own gender and my own sexuality. I always hated the word 'bisexual,' because that's even putting me in a box. I don't ever think about someone being a boy or someone being a girl," she tells Variety.
"I went to the LGBTQ center here in LA, and I started hearing these stories. I saw one human in particular who didn't identify as male or female. Looking at them, they were both: beautiful and sexy and tough but vulnerable and feminine but masculine. And I related to that person more than I related to anyone in my life.
"Even though I may seem very different, people may not see me as neutral as I feel. But I feel very neutral. I think that was the first gender-neutral person I'd ever met. Once I understood my gender more, which was unassigned, then I understood my sexuality more. I was like, 'Oh—that's why I don't feel straight and I don't feel gay. It's because I'm not.'”
SIA on how love is really just love.
“Before I was actually successful I'd always said I've always dated boys and girls and anything in between,” she told Same Same.
“I don't care what gender you are, it's about people. I didn't just recently open up, I just recently got famous! I've always been … well, flexible is the word I would use."
Caitlyn Jenner on the importance of understanding the difference between sexuality and gender.
"I'm asexual," Jenner told Diane Sawyer during the interview revealing she was transitioning.
“There’s two different things here," she added. “Sexuality is who you personally are attracted to — who turns you on — male or female. But gender identity has to do with who you are as a person and your soul, and who you identify with inside, OK?"
Laci Green on how only you can define your sexuality and – surprise! – you can also define it how you damn well please.
“Pansexuality is sometimes described as being gender-blind. You’re a woman? Nice. You’re a man? Great. Penises? Bring it on. Non-binary? Sweet! Boobs? Those are awesome. Can we cuddle now?” she says. “Where things start to get a little murkier is when we talk about the difference between pansexuality and bisexuality. The good news is that we define labels! Labels do not define us. Think on that one in your head; it’ll start going around everywhere, and you’ll be like, “Oh yeah. Labels are just words to describe things that we feel.”
"In a general sense, “pan” means “all”: attraction to all genders and sexes. “Bi” means “two”: attraction to two genders or two sexes. I think that’s the simplest way to sum it up. Think of that what you will. When it comes to things like sexual preference, it’s important that each individual has the power to decide what that’s going to mean for them specifically.
Cara Delevingne on how people need to stop worrying so much about defining other people’s sexuality.
“A lot of the friends I have who are straight have such an old way of thinking,” she told Glamour Magazine. “It’s ‘So you’re just gay, right?’ [They] don’t understand it. [If] I’m like, ‘Oh, I really like this guy,’ [they’re like], ‘But you’re gay.’ I’m like, ‘No, you’re so annoying!’
“Someone is in a relationship with a girl one minute, or a boy is in a relationship with a boy, I don’t want them to be pigeonholed. Imagine if I got married to a man. Would people be like — ‘She lied to us!’ It’s like, no.”
Amandla Stenberg on frustrations with people making assumptions about their gender pronouns.
"I've said before that I'm comfortable with using the pronouns 'they' or 'them' alongside 'she' and 'her' just because that's a conversation that's important to me," Amandla explained to People. "I don't necessarily always prescribe to female pronouns just because I don't think that pronouns are necessarily very meaningful."
"They/them makes me feel comfortable, but I know that the media and the general populace that follows me will critique it/not understand, which makes me feel sad and almost more uncomfortable.
Frank Ocean on the value of living your own truth.
“I suppose a percentage of [coming out publicly] was because of altruism; because I was thinking of how I wished at 13 or 14 there was somebody I looked up to who would have said something like that, who would have been transparent in that way,” he told The Guardian.
“But there's another side of it that's just about my own sanity and my ability to feel like I'm living a life where I'm not just successful on paper, but sure that I'm happy when I wake up in the morning, and not with this freakin' boulder on my chest."
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