A New Video Has Emerged That Asks Men When They Last Cried
Cos crying is HUMAN, not "feminine".
Huffington Post have just released a video to raise awareness about male suicide by asking men about the last time they cried, and it is brilliant.
During the vid they gather men of all backgrounds and ages from the UK (a lot of them very famous) and ask them the question – “when did you last cry?” You might think it’s a very simple question, but it’s often surprising how many men don’t feel comfortable crying in front of other people, or admitting to feel any emotions that might be considered “weak”.
People are increasingly trying to raise awareness about the pressures on men to be “masculine” and not show any emotions. The HeForShe campaign that Emma Watson preaches, for example, is as much about empowering women as it is about empowering men – just as we need to get rid of the perception that women shouldn’t be powerful, high-earning bosses, we need to get rid of the perception that crying and being vulnerable is specifically a female trait and undermines a man’s masculinity. Men SHOULD be allowed to be vulnerable.
The pressure for men to be “strong” emotionally can lead to a deterioration of their mental health. As the Huffington Post video says, 76% of all suicides last year were of men. It’s also the biggest killer of men under the age of 45. Clearly the issue needs to be addressed because, unless men are able to talk about their problems and express themselves without fear of judgement, they could end up feeling isolated and alone, and deeply unhappy.
We’re all people, we all cry. And that’s ok – we wouldn’t be human if we didn’t!
So what did the guys in the video respond to the question – “when did you last cry?”
There were a variety of responses ranging from men who don’t remember when they last cried to James Buckley’s (Jay from the Inbetweeners’) answer, “I’m ready to go at any minute!” Ahh, we love him.
A surprising amount of men said “yesterday” or “last night” (surprising only because you don’t often see that amount of honesty), and there were a few men who identified themselves as serial blubberers too. Some cried at songs, some at films (e.g. ‘The Notebook’ and ‘Forest Gump’… we need tissues just thinking about those ones) and some had some more serious personal reasons for their most recent cry.
Any of those reasons are completely valid because crying is a natural human response to upsetting experiences. Let’s face it, we all feel better after a good sob.
Basically the vid was a fab way to raise awareness about the male suicide epidemic, and to show men everywhere that it’s normal to cry, and talk about your feelings. There are so many stifling stigmas surrounding being a “man”, and we need to get rid of them!
(P.S. Huff Post are encouraging everyone to share the last time they cried using the hashtag #boysdocry… what better day to share your experiences than today?!)