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Fantasy Vs Reality: 11 Porn Lies That Could Ruin Your Sex Life

If you let them...

Emily Hooley
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Tuesday, September 12, 2017 - 13:06

Ever watched a bit of cheeky porn? You’re not alone. In fact, in 2016 alone, Pornhub received 64 million visits PER DAY.

Porn is, first and foremost, a form of entertainment. Sexy entertainment. But the way sex happens in porn is FAR removed from the way it happens IRL. Here are 11 porn lies that could legit ruin your sex life… if you take it seriously.

Foreplay should last approx. two minutes

The whole process of arousal and orgasming is really quite simple for men most of the time, compared to women.

What DOESN’T help is that foreplay in porn often lasts for no time at all, and can even be edited out completely. Female pornstars always seem RARING to go, from the moment their sex buddy drops their pants. Actually, for most women, foreplay is the KEY to good sex. According to a 2017 online survey by FPA, 83.2% of women need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm, and almost 80% said they couldn’t climax from penetrative sex alone. So foreplay is pretty damn important IRL.

Sex isn’t a 100m sprint, it’s a long-distance run, so there ain't no harm in slowing the f**k down. If a woman isn’t ready and lubed up by the time she’s doing the naughty, sex can feel FAR from sexy – it can be downright uncomfortable, or even painful! It’s foreplay or the highway, ppl.

Women always orgasm

Nope.

Unfortunately, there’s an orgasm gap between men and women. In an online US study of more than 50,000 people, 95% of heterosexual men reported having an orgasm, compared to 65% of heterosexual women (though 86% of lesbian women reported orgasming, which is a much better rate).

Given that in porn 100% of women seem to orgasm at LEAST once in any given sex sesh regardless of foreplay, gals watching could end up thinking there’s something wrong with them for not reaching the big O, when it’s actually perfectly normal if they don’t.

It’s also dangerous if guys believe that women find it easy to orgasm, because they won’t see as much need to do foreplay, and may put unnecessary pressure on their partner to climax. What a mess.

Nobody uses condoms

Wtf is this about?! In most porn films you’ll never spot a condom, and you’ll NEVER see one actually being put on, God forbid.

Obviously this one causes quite a few problems. If nobody used condoms IRL there would be STIs spreading all over the shop, not to mention unwanted pregnancies. The fact that porn mostly leaves condoms out of the equation can make people think that condoms are positively ANTI-sexy, whereas they can actually be used in foreplay, and shouldn’t be seen as something that sucks the fun out of the whole process.

You know what’s not fun? Chlamydia.

Real men last 40 minutes

Bullsh*t. According to an NHS study of 500 couples around the world, the average amount of time a guy lasts during sex is… five and a half minutes.

Guys watching porn can feel ashamed that they don’t last as long as male pornstars when, in reality, male pornstars often use Viagra and other treatments to stay erect, and they often stop and start in between film takes. LIES.

Huge penises are the only desirable ones

Male pornstars are often hired because they have massive penises, but there are also tricks filming crews can pull on set to make penises look bigger. Regardless, guys watching porn may end up thinking that size matters, and that only big willies can give pleasure.

IRL, good sex is to do with a lot more than penis size! It’s all about how you use it.

Humans don’t have pubes

Seriously, this is quite a big one. In mainstream porn RN it’s very common that both men and women have little to no pubic hair.

People aren’t Barbie dolls, we all have pubes. And we all need to get over that fact. Sharpish.

Lesbians want willies

Ya know what? Lesbians are defined as women who fancy other women. If they fancied men, they would be bisexual. Then why is there so much lesbian porn that involves men?

Lesbians have long been sexualised by society, to the point where they get high-fived from eager-eyed men who are convinced they can get involved in the girl-on-girl action. Unfortunately for those men, lesbians probably don’t want or need their willy in order to have a good time. In fact, the high lesbian orgasm rates prove it. C’est la vie.

Sex is smooth sailing

Yeah… no. Sex is not always as erotic as porn will have you believe. Sex IRL can be clumsy, awkward, or even downright boring.

Plus, embarrassing things happen during sex, including queefs which porn will have you believe don’t exist. Porn has mood music, lighting and heavy editing – real life sex just can’t compete with that, and that’s ok.

Nobody has arseh*les

Guys, pornstars use bleach to pretend they don’t have arseh*les, but they do. Don’t worry.

Vajays all look the same

Many female pornstars have surgery to give themselves designer vaginas but don't worry - in reality, vaginas come in ALL shapes and sizes, and there’s NO SUCH THING as a perfect one.

Genitalia is weird and varied, and that’s another fact of life we all need to accept.

We should look like pornstars naked

Muscles and godly figures definitely feature in a lot of porn whereas in reality, most sex looks a lot more wobbly, and that’s all well and good.

Body shame and under-confidence can definitely affect your sex life because stressing about what you look like naked is a total libido-killer. Never compare your body to pornstar bodies – like models, they’re often hired to look a certain way naked, but they don’t reflect what the majority of people look like in their bday suit… so don’t stress! You’re your own harshest critic, and your sex partner will NOT be examining you, they’ll be too busy having fun!

Basically, porn films are just that – films – and, just like any other film, the truth can often be sacrificed for a storyline. If you take everything with a pinch (maybe a spatula) of salt and instead get to know the real facts, you’ll be well on your way to a healthy and happy sex life. 

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