What To Remember When You Feel Like Your Personal Life Is Going Up In Flames
Self-care is important, but self-love is a whole other level.
There’s a constant dialogue surrounding self-care online, with young people especially realising the importance of looking after yourself first and foremost. You can’t live your best life if you’re not taking care of your own wellbeing, but life can be tough.
As we all fight toward our goals and attempt to live up to not only our own expectations or our families, but the expectation of mega success that society pushes on all of us in the digital age, we can forget to take a step back and appreciate our personal lives.
So when they go up in flames, and bad news comes in threes, it can really take its toll.
There are a few things that you don’t want to forget in order to make sure that you don’t allow life to get you down… not for too long anyway.
Remember that your future isn’t defined by your present
Regardless of what’s going on in your personal life (and whatever it is, it’s valid and deserves your attention), just know that the present doesn’t define your future. Eventually the sh*t storm you’re experiencing will pass, and you’ll be able to see your path again much clearer.
Just give yourself a break, and allow yourself time to adjust and adapt to any of life’s major changes. Change is good after all, even if it seems like the end of the world rn.
There’s never a right time for therapy
This is a damn fact. Well, kind of. There truly never is a right time for therapy. If you’re going through it, one of the best practices you can do is to talk to someone else. You don’t even need to attend actual therapy in order to relieve stress.
Look for local support groups in your area. Talk to family or friends. Some people even class exercise as their form of therapy. Find what works for you and use it to rid yourself of whatever’s playing on your mind. A problem shared is a problem halved, as your nan would say.
Your professional life doesn’t need to mirror your personal
It’s tricky to try and not bring feelings that are heightened due to your personal circumstances into work, but it’s worth attempting to separate the two. Bringing your emotions into work can alter how you perform and a lacking in performance could make you feel even worse.
Try and view your professional life as an escape from your daily dealings and if that’s not possible, then take a mental health day. It’s vital that you put yourself first… always. Your career won’t crash and burn simply because you need 24 hours to process big news.
Don’t label yourself as ‘too emotional’ for feeling emotions
Playing off the back of the last point, don’t beat yourself up over feeling emotions. You’re human. It’s natural, and having feelings doesn’t make you ‘too emotional.’ We live in a world that’s obsessed with everyone being ‘a bad bish,’ ‘a boss,’ or ‘a mess.’
There’s not much in between, and this type of rhetoric can be damaging because it either instils a negative message or hypes you up to a point where you can begin to feel inadequate. Totes not cute. Be honest with yourself and what you have to offer.
Stop being social on social media…
… For a hot minute. Like, literally just a hot minute because we know it’s hard. Which is strange within itself, the fact that it’s so difficult for us to ‘switch off,’ but it’s worth it.
Taking a day to be introspective and remove yourself from the online world can allow you to be truly present, and that presence can soften the blow on any negativity in your personal life. It allows you to register, process and formulate actions to make improvements.
Making a new Instagram Story to entertain your followers is just another form of procrastination that’s going to set you back. DW, you can make one tomorrow. Just relax.
So if life is getting you down atm, just remember to try and be proactive in your approach to finding a solution. Chat about your problems with people you trust, remind yourself that your feelings are valid and try not to place too much emphasis on the opinions of others. Your thoughts about yourself are the only ones that truly matter, so make them positive.