Anti-Bullying Week: 9 Celeb Gals Who Shut Down Slut-Shaming
Sit down, slut-shamers. It's Anti-Bullying Week.
Slut-shaming is when a girl is shamed or made to feel victimised for her sexual choices. It's sexist, because the thing about slut-shaming is that it only happens to girls. While guys generally get high-fives, girls are often made to feel self-conscious about their sex lives, because of the (basically Victorian) idea that women should be relatively monogamous in order to be "respected".
Which is utter BS. Firstly, a girl having sex should be treated the same way a guy having sex is. Secondly, sex is fun, and it's for us all to decide individually when we want to have it... it's actually no one else's business!
Female celebs are victimised by slut-shaming A LOT by other celebs, the public and the media. But we love it when they take a stand. Here's our list of 9 celeb gals who have totally shut down slut-shaming.
1. Kim Kardashian
Kim K is not exactly selfie shy. In fact, she loves taking selfies so much that she even brought out a book of her selfies last year, called ‘Selfish’. Some are deffo a little risqué, and you might remember that after she posted this one to Instagram, a LOT of negative stuff was said, and she was even attacked by other celebs like Bette Midler and Jeremy Clarkson on Twitter.
But on International Women’s Day, Kim used the pic as a reason to speak out against all the slut-shaming she receives. "I never understand why people get so bothered by what other people choose to do with their lives. I don't do drugs, I hardly drink, I've never committed a crime — and yet I'm a bad role model for being proud of my body?"
She said that everyone always brings everything she does back to her sex tape. "I lived through the embarrassment and fear, and decided to say who cares, do better, move on. …The body-shaming and slut-shaming – it’s like, enough is enough. I will not live my life dictated by the issues you have with my sexuality. You be you and let me be me.”
2. Emily Ratajkowski
Speaking of Kim Kardashian’s naked selfie brings us to Emily Ratajkowski. She shot to international fame when she featured topless in Robin Thicke’s famously raunchy video for ‘Blurred Lines’.
She teamed up with Kim K to post a joint nude selfie where they both held their middle figures up as a direct attack on slut-shaming. It was captioned, “however sexual our bodies may be, we need to have the freedom as women to choose when & how we express our sexuality”.
“A selfie is a sort of interesting way to reclaim the gaze, right?” she said in an interview with Harper’s Bazaar.
Basically she’s pretty f**king smart. And she’s really making people challenge what they thought they knew about women’s rights and liberation.
3. Ariel Winter
Modern Family star Ariel Winter took down some serious double standards, when she called out people for criticizing Kim K’s naked selfie, but celebrating some nude Justin. On International Women’s Day she tweeted, “No one was body shaming @justinbieber when he posted his nude guitar solo so why @kimKardashian? #herbodyherchoice #InternationalWomensDay”.
She then got attacked by all the Beliebers out there, despite being a Belieber herself. But it was worth it, because that comparison was on point.
4. Miley Cyrus
Miley has always been a big advocator of women’s rights. She’s called out the double standards put upon women’s sexuality many times. In one interview, she remembered turning up to an awards ceremony in a long blue dress and receiving criticism for being “boring” because she didn’t get naked enough. “I’m either boring or I’m a slut,” she commented.
In another interview with Marie Claire she specifically targeted the music industry. “There is so much sexism, ageism, you name it. Kendrick Lamar sings about LSD and he’s cool. I do it and I’m a druggie whore.”
“Women are so important and what we tell women is so important,” she said. And she’s right. Miley may have her haters, but she’s a big believer of being liberated as a woman and celebrating other women’s liberation in return.
5. Amber Rose
We COULDN’T talk about slut-shaming without bringing up Amber Rose. She’s a model and actress who’s had a couple of v. famous ex-boyfriends (e.g. Wiz Khalifa and Kanye West) but, most importantly, she’s a BRILLIANT activist. She formed her own Foundation (the Amber Rose Foundation) all about women’s right and equality issues, and has always fought for women’s sexual liberation. She’s not afraid to express her own sexuality and, most importantly, she’s not afraid to stand up for her right and EVERY girl’s right to do so. #Liberation.
She appeared in a video last year called ‘Walk Of No Shame’ which advocated the ‘stride of pride’ instead of the ‘walk of shame’. The aim was to empower women to feel proud of their sexual conquests and feel good about having sex with no shame or regret, just as men so often do. And you need to see it.
Oh, and she also organised a ‘Slut Walk’ in LA in 2015 that served as a public demonstration against sexist double standards and victim blaming. Yaas. Queen. Slay.
6. Nicki Minaj
Nicki Minaj is another power woman who isn’t afraid to speak out against injustice. She’s not afraid to be bold, and show her sexual side to the extreme. In an interview with ‘V’ she simply commented, “women should be allowed to be as hardcore and sexual as we want, because men do it all the time”.
Well… that’s Nicki. She just says it straight – and you can’t argue with that!
7. Ariana Grande
When Ariana’s super saucy Dangerous Woman music vid emerged this year, she received a wave of slut-shaming. When a fan specifically slut shamed her on Facebook, she actually wrote back!
She wrote, “When will people stop being offended by women showing skin/ expressing sexuality? Men take their shirts off/ express their sexuality on stage, in videos, on Instagram, anywhere they want to… All. The. Time. The double standard is so boring and exhausting. With all due respect, I think it’s time you get your head out of your ass. <3 women can love their bodies too!! <3”
This isn’t the first time she’s expressed her opinions about slut-shaming. In 2015, she posted a video of herself waving goodbye and smiling and captioned it, “me @ body shaming/ slut shaming & other misogynistic / negative comments”. Fantastic.
8. Amy Schumer
Amy Schumer is a stand-up comedian who’s not afraid to get into the details. She talks about the messiness of being young and single, and she doesn’t leave anything out when she’s talking about sex.
Her comedy covers female sexual experiences with a rare bold and blasé attitude that not many woman in the spotlight tend to have. Although she uses the term “slut” in her comedy, she also talks about being single and ready to mingle so much that it is working to hack away at the stigma against women having an adventurous sex life. And we think it’s brilliant.
When a young guy Tweeted a photo of him and Amy at the Critics’ Choice Awards, with the caption, “spent the night with @amyschumer, Certainly not the first guy to write that,” Amy hit right back. She replied: “I get it. Cause I’m a whore? Glad I took a photo with you. Hi to your dad.”
Ouch. He then apologised, said the joke wasn’t funny and he would leave the joking to her, and deleted the tweet.
9. Lena Dunham
Ultra feminist campaigner, actor, author and director of ‘Girls’, Lena Dunham, has of course taken a stand against slut-shaming MANY times.
We’ll just leave you with this tweet of hers from 2013:
Ah, Lena. You always say it better than we ever could.
So the media is always being f**king rude about women, and it’s unfair that many other celebs and so-called fans alike join in on the f**king rudeness. But at least we know there are women out there fighting against the f**king rudeness. Like Lena.
Slut-shaming is a massive trend not just in celebrity circles, but everywhere, and it’s not ok. It’s a form of bullying that makes girls feel like they can’t act a certain way. BUT GIRLS: your body is YOURS to do whatever you want with. Cover it up in cling film, undress it, dress it in in thick winter wool, have sex with whoever you want or abstain altogether. Whatever you do, it’s your choice. Don’t let other people dictate your life – they aren’t the ones who have to live it!
If you are being bullied, whether that is having rumours spread about you, having personal pictures/ videos of you sent around, or just generally made to feel isolated and worthless, there are places you can turn. You should never feel ashamed for something that has done no harm to others. Check out Bullying UK’s site, or call their helpline on 0808 800 2222 if you feel you need to talk to someone about it. Childline and the NSPCC's are also great for bullying advice, so check them out or give Childline a ring on 0800 1111.