6 Ways Your Body Language Is Killing Your Dating Game
Uncross those arms and stand with your shoulders back.
Going on a first date is possibly the most stressful thing that can happen to a person aside from opening a stack of overdue bills.
Everybody and their Great Aunt Maude knows how important is to be open and engaging in a one-on-one situation – but where exactly are *you* falling short on the body language front, and how can that be remedied?
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Look, we totally understand how difficult it can be gazing directly into your date’s gorgeous, well-proportioned, and did we mention gorgeous face? But if you start staring at the wall art and fiddling with the table placemats, bae will put two and two together and assume you’re searching for an escape route.
Eye contact is crucial to letting the other person know you’re attracted them; and if you’re up for a challenge, occasionally dropping your eyeline down to their mouth area will subtely hint that you’re thinking about going in for a kiss.
Lack of touch
Have a think about the signals you're giving off. While closed palms can indicate hostility and secrecy, scratching your nose or rubbing the back of your neck suggests you’re uncomfortable and not totally enjoying the experience of the date.
Make a conscious decision to leave your palms open and introduce careful touches – on forearms, hands, or even a gentle brush on the shoulder – to break down that contact barrier.
Pay attention to way your movements reflect each other. Unconsciously copying a person’s stance indicates common ground and mutual interest. So, if your date is leaning forward on the table, shoving your chair back against the wall and opening up a huge area of empty space is a pretty rotten idea.
Your grandma was absolutely right when she told you to stand tall and push your shoulders back. Whereas slouching signals unhappiness and fatigue, sitting upright and moving with decisive actions is far more likely to leave somebody feeling good about being in your company. Fake that charisma until you make it.
In all the worry about whether your sentences are actually making any sense, it can be easy to overlook the most important rule in the dating book. A genuine smile puts other people at ease, makes literally everyone look more attractive, and can even be a clear indicator of romantic interest. Go on, show the world those pearly whites.
Lack of gestures
Still unsure of what to make of all this advice? While there are countless ways to misinterpret a conversation, body language is thankfully pretty easy to decipher. If your date is touching their lips, glancing, fidgeting, or fussing over their clothing and hair, there’s a good chance that they’ll be down for a second date.
In a nutshell, don't worry too much about coming across as overenthusiastic. It's 100% better than the alternative.