Is It Ever Okay To Date Your Best Friend’s Ex?
Taylor Swift and Kendall Jenner have swapped boyfriends, so can we do it too?
While most of us probably hate our best friend’s exes more than they do themselves after listening to countless stories about them playing Xbox instead of taking them out on dates or being their shoulder to cry on when they cheated, some of us may also have experienced developing a crush on a friend’s former partner.
“BUT WHAT ABOUT GIRL/GUY CODE?!” we hear you cry. Well we asked girls and guys from MTV if they think it’s okay to date your best friend’s ex and here’s what they had to say…
“Abolsutely yes. There are only so many suitable fish in the sea and as long as there’s no bad blood between the friend and ex, and the friend is cool with it, what’s the big deal?
“Long live recycled boyfriends.”
“BUT WHAT IF IT’S TRUE LOVE?!”
“IT'S BAD. For people who think of their best mate as a brother or sister, it's basically a slightly less-worse version of dating your sibling's ex. WHICH IS AWFUL.”
“NO ONE WANTS TO BE AN ESKIMO BROTHER!”
What’s an eskimo brother? According to Urban Dictionary an Eskimo Brother is “a male who has had sex with, and ejaculated inside of the same woman as a good friend”.
“Absolutely not – your friendship would NEVER recover after that! If one of my friends dated one of my exes I’d ghost them!”
“Definitely not okay in any way and if your best friend dates your ex, then they are shady AF.”
“I don’t think it’s okay. My best friend dated my boyfriend at the time when I was like 19, in fact I was still going out with him. Needless to say, I haven’t spoken to her since. Its been 6 years.
“It seems daft now when I think about it to lose a friend over that.”
TEAM 'IT DEPENDS ON THE SITUATION'
“My friend is actually dating my ex right now but they are both my best friends and I dated him a long time ago (and have moved on now) so I’m glad they’re both happy.
"It was very weird for a while though and I would never do it personally!”
“I suppose it’s okay if I do it but not the other way around.”
“I’ve tried it on with my mates’ exes but they weren’t interested. So no, I have never done that to a mate… EVER.”
“My best friend’s older sister ended up MARRYING her ex. She returned from travelling to find them living together. Now they’ve got two kids. It’s still pretty awkward when everyone thinks about it too hard.”
“No way José! It’s against the law of friendship. Chicks before d**ks, hoes before bros, fries before guys… Just to clarify meaningless sex is okay.”
“HELLLLLL NOOOOOOO. This is not EastEnders.
“Actually … I will say it’s dependent on how much this person meant to the best friend. You can’t stand in the way of true love. Sometimes you’ve just got to step to one side and let love do it’s thing. Your time will come.
“So actually, I’m torn between if it’s okay or not. Let’s go with Whitney Houston, ‘It’s not right, but it’s okay’.”
“Maybe you’ve got to ask your BBF if it’s okay because you’re in love and maybe they’d understand. Actually, nah, never gonna understand.
“I wouldn’t touch any of my friends or best friends’ exes – it’s just not even in my mind to do that stuff I guess, but maybe it’s because I haven’t actually ever been into them either.”
“I’ve been with a best friend’s ex, as in we slept together a couple of times. At the time it was exciting doing something we shouldn’t. Once he found out we obviously stopped talking. They got back together and as far as I know they’re still together with a kid.
“Of course now looking back I think it was wrong, but sometimes you just want to do something reckless and don’t think of the outcome. They had been broken up a year. I also think it depends on how close you and your friend are. If you’ve drifted apart and haven’t seen each other in years then I think it’s okay.”
So there you have it, a pretty mixed bag all in all, but nearly everyone agreed that it depends on the situation, so if you find yourself looking at your pal's ex differently we'd recommend speaking to your friend about it first before acting on your feelings.
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